I agree that sex is a very personal and private. I also don't have a problem with sex education in the schools. In my day, we were taught nothing about sex. I am not sure exactly at this time how I feel about condoms being handed out in the schools. On one hand it is good to practice safe sex on the other hand aren't we saying it is ok to go ahead and have sex? Safe sex is being responsible to a degree. But isn't sex a deeper issue "no pun here" Commitment and emotions and partners wanting to please each other. Sex should never be a "woman's" duty. How cold is that! I personally feel/think that women's feelings are being stepped on when they are sexually active with many partners. They are being used in my humble opinion. So why do "we" as women do it before marriage?

Good question you asked "How do I explain how I knew?" Unfortunately, I don't have any answers. I can say you you have set a good example by staying married for 24 years. There is an answer here, I just don't have it.

If we offer men sex for money would that make the men not want to get married. Interesting thought. Guess the key is not every woman would ask for money. And maybe those who would ask for money would less likely get married? I don't know. Is a double standard whereas men can be "horn dogs" (don't ask me where I got that expression, because I don't know) and women are expected to be "virtuous".

I just don't understand why paying for sex is wrong. There have been many reasons in this thread as to why it isn't ok.. Just none of the answers yet have turned on that light, as to awwwwwwwww that makes sense.....

Maybe this "topic" is confusing and harder for me to grasp because of my background. Something "important" might have been damaged and not worked through. Maybe it is that childhood stuff.