Susan, you said you "thought" your Mom meant one thing - but she actually meant she loves you and your sister. I agree with others, she loves you, but she certainly doesn't love unconditionally. For that, I am truly sorry. I honestly believe there comes a time, when as adults, we have not been unconditionally accepted by our parents, we have to "let it go" - because your Mom is probably not going to change her tunnel vision. I am sure it is her LOSS ! Perhaps accepting she will not change will aid you allow her to love you in whatever way she can........and not allow yourself to be hurt by her not accepting your lifestyle.

Myzen makes excellent posts and responses ! I think what he said makes so much sense, and perhaps something you will really benefit from having read !

You know I wish you everything you want and need. I still see growth in you, even when its a bad day !