so i reexplained to my dh that i was having problems with our marriage. we've been having more issues for the last seven months. we are both on meds, mine seem to be working, his, well i can't tell. the last several months i have tried talking to him about his emotional distance and my need for support. so far he has just said he doesn't know how to fix it or if it will get better. the last month or so i've been pulling away. i used to look forward to seeing him every day when we got back from work. now i travel for work and look forward to leaving bc being at home is uncomfortable. i still care about him, but i'm not sure if it is love anymore. yesterday i told him that i wasn't happy and i don't know what to do about it. i started crying bc it hurt to think that it might be over. he just sat there. he said he didn't want it to be over, but neither of us know how to fix it. if he had responded a few months ago when things were only kind of off.... it wasn't until after i told him and broke down that i wanted to hug him or be hugged by him and of course how he doesn't want to touch me. i get that he's mad I didn't "tell him" sooner, but i thought i did, i thought it was loud and clear that something was wrong. i though everything i've told him the last 3 months about things breaking down was enough... i'm just so frustrated. i don't even know if i want it to work.. but a part of me is still terrified if it doesn't. he doesn't want me to leave, or so he says, but he never even said that he loves me as to why i shouldn't.
do all marriages go through this kind of stuff? does group therapy work better than couple? is this till fallout from him being deployed?