That's why you're unhappy. It hurts! You have invested yourself in this man and now you have to take that back so you're "whole"/alone again and find someone else. Whether or not he's responsive, he's familiar and as uncomfortable as the situation is it's "easy" because you know how to deal with it. But you've decided you want to get up out of the easy chair in front of the TV and go "do" something, go jogging :-) and that takes a different energy and practice and is scary and not something we've done lately, etc.