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Originally Posted by peaches100
...how do i get rid of the hurt feelings and go back to the open trusting way i was before this last disappointment?
I've been thinking that maybe i shouldn't push the hurt part of me to come out of hiding or to be present in sessions. maybe i should just be my adult self in therapy. but if the child part of me won't show up again, i don't feel able to resolve my childhood trauma and attachment problems. i'll just be this business-like, analytical patient intellectualizing during the therapy hour.
My t and I have had misunderstandings and problems before, but they have never gone on so long without feeling resolved. It has already been 5 weeks since what happened, and we've already talked about it 3 times. I don't know of anything else to do.
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I don't think you get to go back to the way it was entirely, because you (and your inner child) have the knowledge of the event.
Did you tell T that this is your fear, that you can't get back into the trusting mode, the open mode, the vulnerable place you had reached before the rupture?
My inner "teen" mind also seems to respond differently than my logical adult mind. VERY reluctant to trust. However, I have found that if her issues are not addressed, she makes her presence known.
So give that inner child of yours some time and space? Let her make her presence known again?
What would happen if you took a 2-3 wk break?