Interesting answers

Fun you know. I have posted this story on another psychological forum (a British one if I am not mistaken) and the answers were mostly very different. To put it in a nutshell : while most members of the other site didn't comment the girlfriend issue as if that wasn't the real problem or as if it didn't sound right (which I still believe), most of you concentrated on that and told me to drop everything because I have spent too much time on this and I completely respect that point of view even if I do not agree.

How come you get so different answers ? I mean they are all very valuable to me and I don't pick what I want to hear. The other guys were very critical as well but they concentrated on the guy's psychology and how to counteract it to stay sane.
Maybe I am obsessive. Is that bad ? or shouldn't I concentrate on finding the right strategies coz we all know that the minute we aren't interested anymore, we seem to do it right. Only problem: we are not interested anymore.
So better solve this now, right ?
Some people seem to think that a liar is a no-no. But if a a cheater is a liar, a liar is not a cheater. He has a hard time trusting people so he doesn't realize that truth is an option. Which means that at least right now, I have to find out things for myself or rely on body language and tone of voice. I can't rely too much on what is said. I think that will change with time.

What's a reasonable amount of time to spend on an undecisive guy ?
Shouldn't that depend on the reasons of the undecisiveness ? On the presence of a progress ever so tiny or not ?
How many of us have thrown away a chance because they couldn't stand the misery and didn't want to wait ?
How many have said : Gee, I have waisted my time with this guy/girl but didn't explain what glorious things they would have done instead (watch TV ? get drunk on a saturday night with friends ? go out with someone you don't really fancy but who can listen soooo well ?) ?

So come on guys ! Let's hear more from all of you ! Thanks a lot to those members who keep giving me advice. It's nice to know you are not alone.