lost in termination: At the time, I thought my T misunderstood me, but now, especially with what chaotic posted, I think my T was probably correct. In other matters, I have felt that my Ts misunderstood me, and when that happened, I got very angry and I had to keep talking about it until I felt understood.

The T that told me no one would say what I did, was actually an excellent T. In fact, I still email her occasionally and she emails me back. However, I agree that she shouldn't have made that judgment. How does she know what % of clients would talk about it, anyway?!

chaotic, I wish I could find that article!! Do you know if it was on a website, or have any idea where you read it? But there must be more written on the subject; I'm going to search too.

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What I also liked about the article was that it described different types of arousal that may initially or superficially FEEL the same….but were initiated for TOTALLY different reasons. Reading this really helped me because my mind at the time was telling me that I was a closet homosexual but just hadn’t consciously realized it yet. Which as I’ve come to realize is not true… my sexual orientation has very little to do with my general arousal response.

This is just the kind of information that I need. Thank you! Do you think my T knows the above or do I have to tell her? Do you remember what the other reasons are?

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I you’re like me it’s immediately assigned the “sexual arousal” label and then the internal alarm bells go off, the mental noise loops start to play, the trauma cycle starts, and all hell breaks loose.

Maybe for it's the "My T makes me feel so loved" label, and that's all it is. Not so complicated. To think I've been bothered by this for years, and now you gave me an alternative way to think, chaotic. Hmmm. Wonder if I still have to talk about it tomorrow with T.

Thank you, granite. I'm glad I could help you.