perhaps the turmoil your feeling about going down to one session a week feels easier to manage if its put outside of you? Perhaps that's why you feel in conflict with everyone and yes of course those close to you will feel that and then if not aware will react to it? Hence your husbands flare up, but is it so unexpected if your as you say in conflict?

what comes first the conflict and then the need to contact T? Or the need to contact T and then the conflict? See my point? sorry you can't see T more often that is hard.