I'm sorry tree. I am in a similar boat. my bf suddenly has work issues and the tension he brings home is unbearable - hearing him rant at his colleagues, phoning his mom and ranting to her - the tension is too much for me to cope with.
In an attempt to explain to him how I was batlting with this tension and how i needed him to address the work issues, if for no-one, then at least my emotional state; I started a huge arguement that turned nasty. Maybe I was being selfish; I'm not in a good place right now.
Considering contacting T and seeing if she has any words to pull me out of this. I feel so helpless and depressed right now.