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Originally Posted by chaotic13
... Another thing that I liked about the article was that it hinted at the fact that if you allowed you arousal response to continue beyond that general, initial adrenaline rush and take its natural course… the different types of arousals often end with very different results. ....
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Rainbow, Since I had a male T, I did not have the mental gymnastics of "Am I a lesbian?" but instead I felt a massive amount of guilt at having this tantalizing adrenaline rush about the T - vs. my husband. And I felt the rush as very addictive, let the sensual thought (kiss) go through my mind over and over so I could feel the rush over and over. This was the most distressing aspect of the sensual feeling, that I felt it was out of control.
I talked to my T about this concern in a very round-about way. I said I was having a distressing obsessive thought, and asked how to deal with it.
I say do not force it; she's got some idea of what's going on because of what you revealed about the prior T. You are allowed to respond "I'm uncomfortable talking about this in more detail. Maybe another week I will feel ready". She will respect your boundary.