yesterday i ended things with my fwb. i am sure that he will, eventually, try to reinstate them. i hope i can resist it when it happens.
i have to thank all of you for your insight, especially seeker, who helped me see this for what it really is.
i am, of course, very depressed over how this has all played out, and hope that i don't miss his company so much i go back.
why i allow people to play me is beyond me, but thanks again everyone