Wow good questions as usual sunrise. I think I'd like to actually share my feeling and thoughts with the person who is transitioning thiis time. My dad died suddenly but my mother's transition was slow and progressive and I think she probably wanted to connect better with me. But I was still young, angry at the world and I guess emotionally dead and spirtually inmature. I guess I would like to be the person that could handle serious conversations that someone approaching death might like to voice but also be a person who could find laughter in the sadness.

My one friend who is struggling with cancer at the moment often when I ask how she's doing will say..."well I'm vertical today." and sometimes theeonly thing you can say is..."vertical is good!"
IDK..I guess I jusy Want to be able to stay present and be a good supporting witness/friend.

Unfortunately I still haven't learned how to really share my feelings live with others very well. its hard to be present and. Be there for that crazy ...grieving/celebrating/expansion/grieving...rollercoaster death parade and still not really know how to release tears. I think I am good at sitting with people be...I still haven't figured out how to cry with them yet.