I'm trying to help my friend but I'm lost as to what to do or say...
She has been in a relationship with this man for not even a month, and the first night they met she was drunk and had sex with him.
And it's changing her now... She talks of it in mumbles sometimes, and I don't know what to say. but I know she wants me to hear her, and i'm sure she wants me to say something in return. but i just don't know what.. she has my sad feelings for her but... feelings aren't words...
She continues to have sex with him, and she keeps mentioning the about the first night with him she was like "lets stop" and he put his weight on top of her and was like "why?" and she says she said she was tired and ready to sleep and he talked her into going on by asking something like 'just a little bit longer?" and she was like "but i'm tired" and he responded with "please?" and she was like "alright" .. she states it wasn't rape because of this.. but she goes on and says she wasn't there. that it was like someone else was there, in her place. Then she said it is just the same now just diffrent as there's no begging. and she would really like a book to read while he does his thing. and she gets angry because he takes so long to "finish". and then she asks me if this is normal.. along with why do men get all sweaty and if that was normal. and along with many other questions. I have answers to all those except for if it's normal... I tell her i think it can be rape, but she just tells me no, that she she lets him. She called me crying one night over it. But.. gah, i just don't know what to say!
What would be best to do in this situation? what can I tell her?