I too have parts that just want to stay with T forever. And right now it hurts so much when they "take over" ... I don't think they have to be in charge all the time even though I wish I could feel connected to T all the time, but I don't think that you should dislike these parts or feel the need to "change" them-- I guess change just sounds harsh to me. This is just me speculating based on my experiences in the small chance that it may help you, but maybe you just need to let these parts have all these big feelings, and then once the feelings come out they won't feel so consuming and painful. You can still live with these parts with less pain. My T always says that one goal of my therapy is to get me to a place where I can get the good feelings from others in RL so that eventually I won't need her as much... and right now that feels so far away and impossible, but I guess we just have to be patient... even more patient. I'm sorry. I hope this helps.