Thanks, I'll try doing those.
I am just at a loss because I have tried, from listening , ect. But I get the feeling she keeps bringing it up because she's wanting something... like a need.. that's not been filled yet.. so.. I'm like racking my brains against a wall trying to figure out what need that may be, and so far i've had no success.
and I'll ask her, maybe she will allow for more help. (i've suggested therapy but she doesn't want to talk about it- with anyone else. :\ )
Anyways, ^_^ Thanks!