There isn't any way to imagine what a child is going to go through because they not only cannot have the same experiences as we had but they can't have them 20 years later! We will see and identify with some of their behaviors, mistakes, fears and pains but they are truly 100% theirs; their experiential world is not ours. Everyone gets bullied, tries to be in the "in" crowd and/or doesn't think they fit, are teenagers with a lot of angst of one kind or another; growing up is a messy, painful business. One cannot (and do not want to!) protect a child from it or guide them in the way we think they should go; they have to go their way because our way is not theirs, they literally can't go where we would "like" it doesn't look the same to them.