I hadn't thought of that - good idea. I'm not sure how she will respond to opening up to 'strangers' while it is so fresh, she may stick to the group she knows for now, but I will mention it - who knows, she may decline now and show up in a couple of months, you know? Thanks for the idea.

And to everyone else. She hasn't been around for a week or so... she's being by herself - I know, perhaps not the healthiest of choices but her choice nevertheless. The prison has given her an explanation but she is still waiting to hear from one of his friends. His cellmate apparently sent her a letter but she didn't get it and he is in the hole. All outgoing mail is subject to search but in this prison system it doesn't happen too often - but it is likely they checked all his outgoing mail. Finding out info is not hard, but it is very time consuming and requires patience and creativity.

I did tell her that I posted on another site and that she had lots of hugs and support here as well. I didn't think to give her the name but I will. Thanks for caring about a strangers suffering.