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Originally Posted by WePow
Rainbow, if your T allows e-mails - you can use that. Allow T to set the bounbary.
..... We have talked about it several times and he tells me to trust HIM to set the boundary and that HE will let me know if I am crossing them. He is very honest with me about everything.
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I agree with what you say, wepow, but the problem I personally have with that is that I'm afraid of how I'll react/feel when or if my T did have to reassert the boundaries. I just know I would experience it as rejection and that is so hugely painful and triggering to me.
So, yes, I agree that we should let the T set the boundaries, but I am always so scared and careful to not push those boundaries for fear of it causing me more pain.
anyway, that's me, hopefully you don't have those same rejection/abandonment issues, Rainbow
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