((((((((pleasehelp))))))))

I agree with every post here. I was in a similar situation and I kept thinking it would improve and as it always does it escalated to physical abuse. Men like that are controlers as well as abusers.

If you feel you need to move state then do so. There is an ad here at the moment that says it all "Shut Up and LET ME GO". You can write to the girls and visit with the girls, but as one very astute poster mentioned the ex-wife can probably tell you why she left is the same reason you are leaving.

You can get police help to collect your things, do that and never go back