I wish I still had it, but I read a description of a talk that someone was going to give about forgiveness that really struck me. The gist of it was that in order to even begin to move towards forgiveness, one must first accept. This speaker viewed acceptance of the hurtful event/circumstance/behavior as more valuable than forgiveness. They also said that forgiveness was not even necessary to move towards healing if you accept.

I should clarify that by "accept" the speaker was not referring to approving of a behavior/hurtful event/circumnstance, nor condoning it. But rather accepting that it occured and what that means for you.

I found it intriguing to think about this, and I wish I had been able to attend the talk.

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