I don't have the same issue, I married really young and my whole life I just wanted to be loved by someone. I can see that this is painful for you, so I just wanted to offer some support. You aren't alone, I have two close friends in their 40's who have never dated. The world seems to be set up for couples, and that's unfortunate. Take pride in the fact that you have been able to be self sufficient all this time. Never having dated is a lot better then having several divorces (imo). I really hope T helps you work thru this.