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Originally Posted by WePow
Tree - if you are really afraid that it could break the relationship, this is the one time I would say give yourself permission to shelve it for now. I know I advocate being honest, but I thought about your situation last night while I was trying to sleep and I think there are a few times when NOT telling something may be in YOUR best interests. At least for now until some time passes and you do feel safe enough to share. If you want, you can tell T that you have something that you want to say but you do NOT feel safe enough YET to share it. There is nothing wrong with going about this very slowly and methodically in order to stay safe.
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This has crossed my mind too. I'm not sure WHY I feel like I have to tell him...I guess because being honest with T is a HUGE deal to me
And because now I know a major event that is going on in his life and it feels weird that he knows and I know but I'm not saying anything.
Here it is. I looked at his FB page and his friends list. I KNOW that is okay, because we have talked about it. I clicked on his wife. Her wall was wide open. I clicked on her wall (I've done that before and she never posts anything, ever, except "so and so is now friends with so and so" types of auto updates") and right there on the top of her page was a link to a realtor because they're selling their house. I clicked on the link and looked at the pics. I flipped through them QUICKLY because I was curious and really didn't want to see them at the same time. I will SO not go back there because I feel so icky now. So. Ugh.
ETA: I'm 99.99% sure they're moving to another house in the same area, so that's not an issue. I just feel like I walked through T's house without his permission. Ick.