(((( Treehouse )))) Just go slowly with this and allow yourself to do what you need to do to both stay safe and keep your relationship with your T. I have told my T things about his FB page not being locked down tight enough. Anyone could click his friends and search his last name and find his daughter and son listed - saying that he was their dad. And his daughter told the world exactly where she worked. THAT set me into alarm mode because some people are evil and I saw this as a BIG danger issue. Sooooo I risked it and told T what I found and why I was looking (I was trying to see if he was safe enough on the web - me trying to take care of him - one of my big issues I am working on with role reversals - ick). But he accepted what I said and then the next time I looked, his kids were locked up nice and safe :-) That made me feel so much better !!!!!!