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Originally Posted by pachyderm
That depends. It depends on "how" you go out, what you are "doing" when you go out. I have found that forcing myself to do things such as "go out" often simply does no good. If I can be "mindful" when I go out, that is OK, but if not, it may do no good whatsoever -- advice from T or not. I'd rather not have "advice".
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I agree with that, pachy. Just going out for the sake of going out isn't particularly helpful and can be harmful actually.
I told my T once that I resented being told to "just do it" as it feels really invalidating. She said the difference between the DBT skill of "opposite to emotion action" and "just do it" is the part of opposite action where you allow yourself to feel the emotions in the moment. It's not pushing away the emotions and saying they don't matter. It's feeling the fear or whatever it is, acknowledging it, and then choosing to act opposite to what the fear is telling me.
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