Hello, Bobbi. I offer these articles as confirmation of what I expect you already know:

http://www.unfetteredmind.com/articles/helplessness.php
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archive...overcome-them/
http://blogs.psychcentral.com/always...gs-of-control/;
http://www.wikihow.com/Recognize-a-M...g-Relationship
http://www.thefreelibrary.com/Positi...g.-a0160872992
http://ginabaksa.com/ways-to-overcom...-helplessness/
http://blogs.psychcentral.com/anxiet...r-or-a-victim/

You know your relationship with your husband is not a healthy one. On a prior occasion there was a discussion about formulating a plan to safely get out of the relationship. I believe you intended to call the National Domestic Hotline for assistance: http://www.ndvh.org/

Safety Planning: http://www.ndvh.org/get-help/safety-planning/

Whatever you choose to do, you will have my support.

Be safe.