First of all, I'm so sorry you have to endure this painful situation. Sometimes when we live abusive situations it becomes normalized and we have a hard time determining what is healthy. I know you said that you're sensitive and sometimes it's hard to tell what is real and what isn't but 'you're a stupid *****' and 'you're a stupid *****' are not open to interpretation. Both comments are inexcusable and innappropriate.

I know that people get trapped in their family of origin and I don't know what is right for you but I would like to share that my mother was extremely emotionally abusive to me as well. Like you, I felt that my younger sibling was loved more, at least by my mother. My father was constantly at work though he was great; never an unkind word from him. It turned out that he really was working and it was my mom who took advantage of him being gone to cheat on him.

Eventually what I had to do was to cut all ties with my mother. That wouldn't have been a healthy choice for me if I retained all that hurt, shame and guilt she nurtured but I worked through it. I hold no malice toward my mother; she is just a miserable person who did the best she could - her best just happens to stink. I don't know what you're answer is but I have found that removing all the negative people from my life allowed me to heal from the emotional damage and start creating healthy supportive relationships with people who treated me the way I deserve to be treated.

Good luck.