I'm 30 and my boyfriend is 28. I have a lot more sexual experience than he does and even in the beginning I had to make the first move. He has a hard time keeping an erection during sex and takes over the counter pills for that. Problem is that sometimes when taking them he cat ejaculate. He doesn't need the pills when he masturbates, only during sex. We've lived together for about a year now. We never had a lot of sex, maybe once a week. Now it's more like once every 4-6 weeks. He tells me he's too tired and its too much work. I don't think its me. I'm look about the same as I did when we met and he always used to tell me that I'm sexy but he doesn't do that anymore. He gets erections all the time by looking at me or touching me but when it comes to sex he says he "just doesn't want it". He's very affectionate and loving towards me and there aren't really any other problems in our relationship. We're going on 4 weeks now and the only time we do it is when I initiate it. I tried the other day and he said "it's my day off. I don't wanna have sex. It's too much work". I asked if the reason he doesn't want sex is because of something to do with him or with me. He said he doesn't know. That he doesn't have a lot of experience and has never been in a situation where he can have it whenever he wants it and he "just doesn't want it". It has nothing to do with my skills in bed because I know there's no issue there. So my question is, is it possible that he's just not interested in having sex even though he does like to masturbate? Or is it that he's not interested in sex with me? I don't know what to do.