Hello Cass,

You really are in a complicated situation. I think the reality of his siutation is now worrying him. Muslims are very strict about marrying to their own kind and do not accept Western Women. Many of them are in arranged marriages and he could now feel that he has backed himself into a corner. It was a simple emotionally removed relationship when you were living at home and it was computer based; but then you complicated it for him when you moved to be with him. Muslims are against sex before marriage and so he would be stuck in several areas with you. 1: You are not a muslim
2: you are not what he thought you were, 3: he can't marry you without disobeying his religion which they take very seriosuly, 4: you are not from his own background which also means he is going against his religion seeing you unless it is only for the sewing of his wild oats. There are so many problems here.

He will be very afraid of telling his partents that he has a non-muslim girlfriend. And if I am not mistaken that is what he is referring to when he says he can't take you seriously. But you are not getting his meaning. There is also the possibility that your mental health scares him. Your issues are complex and I would be looking for a free community based treatment clinic which you can get about 12 visits for free.

I know that if it were me and this means if it were me, I would be moving home as soon as I could to a stable atmosphere where you have people around you who at least know you. I know you are not really happy with your family but they will at least be there for you. All families have issues and there are few people who don't complain about their loved ones...

Take care and be well,

Rhiannon