this is the topic du jour in my therapy right now.
I didn't write what follows here, but after I made my own outline, I found this and for me it covers about 90% (it doesn't speak to the fact that parents are to teach their children about God, by word but especially by example; that's what the family environment is FOR).

An ideal family would be one:

1. Where there is unconditional love, in which every member is accepted and respected for what she/he is, without any comparisons.
2. Where there is communication and empathic listening to the said and the unsaid in an atmosphere of peace and harmony.
3. Where being home means to be in a haven where one need not be anxious for one’s physical and emotional well being. Where every member can repose unconditional trust in the other. Where one is not alone in joy or in sorrow.
4. Where children are free to share their joys, fears, thoughts and perceptions in all their innocence and purity.
5. Where every member finds time to be there for the others.
6. Where we receive our first lessons in what is good and not so good. Where WHAT is right is more important than WHO is right. Where sharing and caring is a habit.
7. Where reprimands and corrections spring from a foundation of love. Where people learn by example. Where rights go hand in hand with responsibilities.
8. Where dignity and division of labour are respected and accepted.

ALL HAVE A RIGHT TO FEEL
accepted
acknowledged
admired
appreciated
approved of
believed in
capable
challenged
clear (not confused)
competent
confident
forgiven
forgiving
free
fulfilled
heard
helped
helpful
important
in control
included
listened to
loved
needed
noticed
powerful
private
productive / useful
reassured
recognized
respected
safe / secure
supported
treated fairly
trusted
understandng
understood
validated
valued
worthy