Trouble with lists like that, they leave out the times when families do fail to uphold some of the above and sometimes its in that failure that we learn to tolerate adulthood and learn that sometimes we dont always get what we want exactly as we want, of course this doesnt mean abuse is ok, but an average family sometimes do not meet all of the above all of the time and that can be as important in our learningn as having a needs met. We learn that its not always about us and our needs that sometimes others need time for themselves and yes sometimes can mean we go without for a short while.