((((((((((((((((((((((purplefins))))))))))))))))))))))) a gentle hug for you with head down and eyes closed. You were there too, I see. no safe place. And very conditional love, based on getting it right - and "it" changed, and you weren't always told what it had changed to, but had to try to figure it out, each one's own burden, no matter how small or inexperienced.

There may not be an ideal family anywhere, I know that; people are only human; but I can name several on this very forum who are determined to make it better for their own children, taking great care that the cycle STOPS with them. I respect them immensely for it.