Hello ((((hillgal))))

Welcome to PC. What a scary situation to be in. I honestly think what you may have here is a case of "overemotionitis". He's wound you up with all this stuff then simply and without a second thought moved on; what a guy!

What you have had is a slight reliving of your first love. None of us ever forget our first love and when a chance comes along to see how it would have turned out we generally jump in with both feet regardless of the consequences. Don't stress yourself or feel bad because it happens to so many people. And it does'nt make you a bad person, just a romantic. Romance however is "honeymoon period" stuff not every day stuff.

Look at your husband, look at the investment you two have in each other and in the future you built together. You knew when you married that it wasn't all going to be beer & skittles; that at some time there were going to be issues to face. This is one of them.

Well who is still with you? Your husband or the ex? The ex has turned tail and disappeared into the dust...albeit cyberdust...

There is always a reason that someone doesn't end up in our future, and if he had made it into yours, he would have been having an emotional affair on you and you would be feeling the way your husband is feeling right now; angry, sad, disillusioned and afraid. Not that you intended that to happen; I am pretty sure you just thought you were looking up an old friend. He started this and then ran...

You have lost nothing and have gained a husband who is still there and who loves you. If your marriage were in trouble you would have gone out and had a physical affair; your marriage isn't in trouble and you just need to refocus and see where the goodness is...don't look back...you have it all...

I really hope this works out well for both you and your husband

Rhiannon