I would say this is what I *aspire* to in my family. Melba, I don't think it's totally black and white - that a family is like this or it isn't. Nothing is going to be perfect all of the time, and things almost always fall in the middle. But having this to aspire to gives me a roadmap, especially during difficult moments with my boys.

My family growing up was pretty much the opposite of what is listed here. There wasn't unconditional love, respect, safety, etc. So, when I became a parent, I read TONS of books - I knew I didn't want my family to be like the one I grew up in, and I had NO idea what another type of family would look like. Those books became my guides as I learned to do it differently than how it was done with me.

I think I will print that list and put it on my fridge, sawe. It's a beautiful reminder