Thanks, growly. Those are very good questions you "pulled" out of my post. You say that you decide how much time to spend on each topic. Often a session doesn't work that way, though. My former T didn't like when I had an agenda because spontaneity in a session can be more productive. But I do have to decide about the EMDR because it really does need a whole hour.

I want to do the EMDR because I get to watch her hands. Thinking that makes me sick. I just want her to love me. Maybe I'd better tell her that first or I will have a lousy session with my feelings locked up inside of me.