For me it was trial and error. Which is scary.

I think it really helps to have people to talk to about therapy, kind of like a 'checks and balances'. (This forum, obviously, is great for doing that.)

That is how I knew I needed to quit with my first T who wasn't so great and beginning to blur the boundaries - someone I met online (before I found this place) clued me in that there were things that weren't right.

Feel better soon, Pachyderm.