peaches,

this is saddening for you. I spent my life with my mum like that, only good enough when I could do something for her. I only just walked away from my family many years after my dad died. But I had to do it, they would have destroyed me mentally and emotionally if I hadn't walked away.

I told them why, and that I would never see them again, and boy that felt good; I finally was able to say "get nicked!" So I won't see any inheritance...money well spent I say...

I wish you luck and peace with this...you deserve both...