Hi Rhiannonsmoon, well said. I felt like that many a times when my obstinate dad verbally abuses me when I don't agree with him. In my case, I have just chosen to have less contact.

Peaches100, you are still viewing the relationship with your parents from a child's perspective. We have this tendency to run after people who are least likely to appreciate us with the hope that they will someday approve of us. But, some people are unlikely to do so. If you could see your parents for what they really are (i.e. unfair, unloving, critical people), rather than the big, powerful people who will approve of you once you play right all the cards, you will stop running after them. Just accept the reality and grieve for having such parents and for suffering throughout your childhood, you will feel better.