Unfortunately I am very familiar with all of these criteria

I thought a forum would perhaps be a bit easier to cope with for me-- but I find my same old reactions come out here too.

I have read your link before and can relate to it also-- I usually have more a "flight" reaction-- than a "fight" one--- I just disappear and don't voice how much I'm hurting-- leaving the other person/persons wondering what happened to me!

This way of thinking-- that I am not going to be liked- or won't want to be included-- is such an automatic pattern-- I feel trapped and hopeless of ever escaping! Any perceived negative response I receive, leaves me hiding to protect my "burned" heart from social interaction. It's a horrible way to be-- lonely with a self-perception of weakness ---- I very much wish I could not be so fragile.

I wonder, how much do you relate to from the criteria??

Thanks for sharing, and wishes of better tomorrows-- for you!

mandy