Hello fctwinkie,

I wish I could tell you something that would make things better for you, but atlas, all I can do is to offer you advise on what I would do if it were me.

All relationships are 50/50, which is aparently something you don't have at this point. It is give and take on all parties involved, but you mentioned something I think takes priority over all else.

Her threats to murder you and the husband is something not to be overlooked. Above all else you owe it to yourself to be safe, and if a child, any child, becomes a danger to your safety, well , it is time to take action so that all are safe and well.

If this is the cae, as sad as it may be, please, do not allow her to return home, and if your husband will hear of nothing else, then leave and be safe.

Have you reported these threats to the authorities? If not, then now is the time, before she acts upon those threats. I'm sure there are counselors and other professionals, and programs designed to help someone such as yourself. Please, by all means do check into them.

I'm sorry I cannot see any storytale ending here, but I can see you protecting yourself and the best policy is always preventive maintence.

Take care sweetie, and please keep us informed. Post often and as many times as you feel is needed.

Your friend Sam

"You'll never know what you're capable of if you don't try."