Did you share the list of things you're looking for in a T, with the prospective T's?

I think it'd be really hard to get a clear understanding or make any kind of connection in an initial phone call. I can also see a T feeling as though they want to keep the responses open and vague, since most issues can be complicated and therefore can use different approaches...I imagine that it's hard to answer those things on the fly.

Maybe you can take it one step further and set up an initial consult with a couple of T's that didn't totally turn you off, and see how that goes.