It is hard to find a good T, you are right. And it's hard to assess a T from a website posting. I know it helps some people to narrow the geographic area, then identify Ts who have experience in a key field (i.e., depression, personality disorders, etc.) and then call or meet with those Ts to get a better sense of them and their treatment plan. It sounds exhausting, but I'm not sure there's a better way to choose a T than to talk to them--even a LOT of them. I know this is a difficult search for you and I wish there were a different way to find someone.