have you ever considered a 12-step program like (ACA) adult children of alcoholics? now, i know you are not into spiritual things but that program is quite unstructured and unless it's a 'step study' they really don't focus on the spiritual element in the meeting for the most part. i think you might like the sharing where you get your 3-5 minutes to share and no one can comment or give advice or really say anything about your share. ACA is based on a family systems model and i think you'd relate to that because it is about looking at who we are as a result of family dysfunction and dynamics whether or not one is actually from an alcoholic home. i wasn't and it helped me tremendously. just hearing other people's stories was incredibly helpful as it made me feel not so alone with my problems and like others could relate. also, there are no authority figures in Program meetings as it is all peer-to-peer run. that might be a help for you. if you ever decide to check it out do know that they suggest going to 6 meetings before making a decision on the program. sometimes you hit an off night or like a particular meeting better than another. someone recently posted the ACA characteristics here on PC and here is the link.