I'm so sorry that people that you called friends did that to you. I call those kind of people "fair weather friends". When things are going well they're right there to join the party but as soon as things aren't they disappear. I went through a very similar situation with a few people I thought at the time were good friends. I would have done anything for them but as soon as I needed them they backed away. It has made it hard for me now to trust people enough to open up to them. I think because of the narcissistic society we live in today people are unwilling to help others even friends. I think they see it as not their problem or that other peoples problems equal drama and they want nothing to do with it. I can't relate to this kind of thinking at all. Even if it were someone I barely knew that needed help I would be there for them. It is truly a selfish time we are living in. makes it hard for anyone to truly connect anymore.