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Originally Posted by pachyderm
I should shut up. I mean, I must be wrong, right? I cannot be the one who is right and all those degreed T's wrong, right?
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Wrong about what? Right about what?
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What I want is someone who, when reading all the guff I put out, or say in person, if I manage to say anything at all, is to realize the anxiety that lies underneath it all, and who will react to that perception in a mindful way, something that does not increase my anxiety.
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That sounds like a great description of what you are looking for. It didn't take pages. I do see though that reading therapists' website descriptions is not going to find a match to what you wrote. I think a phone call or in person session would help you answer the question, but I understand that would be hard and you don't want to do that. I would have a hard time calling a T I found on a website. Can you ask around and identify someone through the grapevine? Other practitioners? Friends? People with similar concerns? Just grasping at straws... Is there a T training program in town that you admire and whose philosophy you like? I have found that training programs vary tremendously and the Ts that come out of a particular program seem to be aligned with each other philosophically in fundamental ways. So if you had a program you respected locally, you could look specifically for their grads. (My T has sent me to two other Ts for referrals and both were from his same training program. They all have some things in common.)
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Arguments, arguments. If I am wrong, is that the way to correct it?
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Again, this refrain about being wrong. Wrong about what?
Pachy, I am intrigued by your comments about therapists' web ads not saying what they actually do. What would fall in that category that is missing from the ads? For example, if a T said he did EMDR, would that be the sort of specific information that you would find helpful? I wonder if therapists don't bother saying what they do in therapy because they assume people know? Like for physicians, they usually don't say on their web ads what they do, just that they are a dermatologist, or a gynecologist. They assume potential patients will know what it is that a dermatologist does. Perhaps it is the same with these Ts--they assume that people will know what it is that therapists do so they don't believe they have to explicitly state it.
I think they should state it. I knew NOTHING the first time I went to a therapist (who I found through my employer's EAP--not a method I recommend).
Pachy, have you heard of compassionate listening? I wonder if a therapist trained in this would be able to provide some of what you are looking for?