((((((((((((((((Leslie))))))))))))))))))
I'm sorry you are struggling with this. I have a 17 year old and in my experience, you can't force them to do much of anything at this point.

I don't think you can force people to get help at any age. You can let him know you are there for him and let him know help is available. You might even be able to bribe (or force I suppose) him to meet the counselor at least once so he knows who it is.

But, I think you and husband going will let your son know that there is help out there when he is ready. I think that in itself is an important thing.

That's just my view from my personal experience though and I'm often completely off base.

Take care and good luck