That's interesting... thanks for sharing I've not ever read anything like this.

while I was not raised in the "traditional" healthy way.... I do believe I was very much raised to nurture EVERYONE else and not consider myself at all. I never thought of it that -- then-- inturn I would receive love... hmmmm...
yes, now that I think about it-- that is how it was -- if I nurture, then I will get love back.... so I nurtured and nurtured and----- got stepped on.
I do fear that if I try to do/get something for myself it will make me unloveable.......


...... oh my gosh!!! you just gave me a lightbulb moment!! I have never tried to accomplish anything my whole life!!
.... not knowing why till now.....
I fear I'll be unlovable!..
wow.... that's partly why I wander through life with no direction, not accomplishing anything, no degree, no specific job skills..... I must have taken that "rule" to my deepest part of my heart... I can't have/do anything if I want love.
I see a bit clearer now.(heh, not sure what to do with the info-- but it's there)

oops-- sorry I've went off on this epiphany in your thread.

thank you ever so much for sharing this!

fins