Leslie, there are ways to force a minor to go to therapy, but I wouldn't force them unless they are in serious trouble and it is necessary. People just don't respond well to being forced to do anything. The best thing to do is to offer help, be sensitive to what he is going through, and set an example. When kids see that something works for you, then they are more willing to give it a try, and you will learn ways to communicate with him better and improve your relationship. I think that focusing on yourself is the way to go, and then you can turn your attention to him. I can tell that you care about your son very much and want what is best for him.