|
Relationships can be repaired after an affair, but several things have to happen first. 1) You must get to the source of the problem and actively work on it. 2) The cheater must be sincerely sorry for the behavior and last, but probably the most important 3) The cheater must understand that the other person in the relationship will have trust issues and be willing to be open and above board on everything from there on out.
I am very sorry that you are having self esteem issues. In my opinion the only way this relationship will ever really work is if you are able to get answers that make sense from him. Not BS answers. Mom and Sally have no vested interest in telling you the truth. As Moon stated, there are many things that aren't adding up.
Not a single one of us is perfect, we all have our faults. Sometimes loved ones hurt our feelings unintentionally, but if you are looking at this relationship as a long term one, trust is one thing that is non-negotiable.
__________________
I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
|