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Originally Posted by pachyderm
What if it is found to be true that I fit into the category of someone with "certain personality disorders that find critic with therapists, they spend their life finding whats wrong and not whats helpful to avoid becoming vunrable enought and accepting perhaps someone else may know something we don't."? Then what? Does this mean it is OK to consign me to outer darkness, to exile, to the leper colony?
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You forget, that it is you who are doing the consigning. If you want outer darkness, keep doing it the way you've been doing it; otherwise, you have to try something else because if no one can get "in" to be with you, then you have to come out. It doesn't matter what dichotomy you use, it's still a dichotomy and only has an either/or way of being worked with.
I had that problem, wouldn't let anyone in, didn't talk and, when I did, didn't make sense, mostly because I was stuck inside my own head and couldn't figure out how to get out. I solved my particular problem by making one rule; "no fetal position". I did not allow myself to curl up when hurt or scared in fact or mentally; my "job" as I saw it was to keep the emotional "shipping lanes" open between me and my T, I was an ice breaker or mine sweep. . . come hell or high water!
Figure out
your #1 problem and outlaw it. It will show up no matter what therapist you use and you'll be able to work on it with anyone, anywhere. Wrestle with it like Jacob wrestled with the Angel and, (I hope) there will be a blessing for you at the end.