pachy, in your posts where you described what you are looking for in therapy it makes me think of client-centered/rogerian therapy. also, it looks a lot like what eskie said she's had and i believe i have as well and i'm also here in california. a client-centered t is very non-directive and doesn't say very much, is very empathetic and basically lets you talk and talk. it did nada for me but i do know it is helpful for others.

as for IFS, i was also thinking this might possibly be something for you to try as it is a specific and different approach and one that i think might resonate for you. this website has some good info but it is had to navigate. (also, you need to enable java in your preferences). here is a a good pdf of the intro to the site owner's book. i tend to agree with you that references to spiritual things can be pretty much the same as psychological in many instances in these types of discussions. so, i wouldn't let it put you off trying IFS since it is really psychological rather than spiritual (where prayer or meditation or some other spiritual practice would be happening or discussion of one's spiritual beliefs).